I propose that the word “should” be eliminated from our vocabulary.  “Should” is used to refer to something probable or expected.  I especially believe that this word not be used when telling someone how to feel.  For example, “You shouldn’t feel that way.”  The reality is that you do!

Whenever I use this word, it implies that I’m not doing something that is expected. I very rarely explore if the expectation results from external or internal forces or is truly what I believe to be true.  Most of my “shoulds” are created by unknown others so I’m trying to meet standards with which I don’t agree.  My self-imposed “shoulds” only serve to make me feel inadequate and reinforces my belief that I’m not good enough.  So, I should remove the word from my vocabulary but will I and can I?