External vs. Internal Reinforcement

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So many things can be analyzed by looking at them through the lenses of external opinion and internal opinion….physical appearance, self-love/worth, validation of actions or praise for a job well done.

Receiving external, positive reinforcement was, perhaps, the sole way I found self-worth. I used to believe that if I didn’t get validation from someone else for something I accomplished, it wasn’t worth mentioning.  So, I spent all my time seeking others’ approval to the exclusion of seeking my own.  However, I found that there could never be enough positive feedback to make me feel good enough.  Besides never being enough, the comments may not have been as enthusiastic as I’d like or worded the right way to validate the action in my mind.

I now realize that I’m the only one who can provide assurance that I’m worthy.  Only I can give myself exactly the right amount of positive feedback in just the right tone.  I need to do and say things that make ME proud of myself so I can be my sole source of self-love and self-worth.

Don’t get me wrong, I still want the external praise, I just won’t stake my life on it.

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