What do you worry about?

Worrying is using your imagination to create what you don’t want.”

~Abraham-Hicks

I’m a worrier and it’s no wonder because I hail from a long line of worriers. I’ve 12498953_sworried about my weight, about what I’m going to eat and what others think of my body. Are you a worrier too?  What do you worry about?

During my own recovery from Binge-Eating Disorder, studying for my Emotional Eating Certification and reading tons of books on spirituality, I’ve come to realize that worrying is not healing the very things you’re worrying about and the quote above states this perfectly.

Worrying is a normal part of life, right? Well, yes and no. We need to think about potential pitfalls so we can avoid them but we need to be mindful of not letting these thoughts invade our mind to become negative beliefs. On the other hand, constant worry about the same things day in and day out has the potential to become a self-fulfilled prophecy. We’re actually manifesting our worry into reality. Who wants that? After all, we’re worrying to avoid the situation about which we’re worried!

When it comes to weight, eating and body image, we’re in a constant state of worry. We’re negatively focusing and worrying over how much we weigh, what diet we’ll try next, if we’ll get into that “skinny” outfit for the big event next month, if we can attract a significant other or get the dream job. Whatever you focus on grows so worrying attracts that which you don’t want.

Here are 3 things you can do to stop worrying!

  1. Write a list of your chronic worries.

  2. For every worry on the list, write something for which you are grateful. For example, “I’m too fat” turns into “I’m so grateful that I have the opportunity to get to know my body better in order to achieve a healthier weight.”

  3. Practice, practice, practice! This is not an easy shift to make when we’ve been mired in worried, negative thoughts for years. It takes effort to think about life differently because the comfort of beating ourselves up through worrying about our weight, eating and bodies is familiar and what we’ve been conditioned to do. Read the lists you’ve made in steps 1 and 2 daily until the worry starts to lift and becomes a manifestation of the positive.  Don’t worry if it takes time for this practice to become habit!

It’s unreasonable to expect that we will never worry again. But, we can channel that worry into something positive that can heal our relationship with weight, food, our bodies and even other areas of our life. Eventually, your worries will decrease and you’re life will be happier, more fulfilled and with a lot less frown lines 😉

If you’re not familiar with Abraham-Hicks and the Law of Attraction, visit their website here.  

Day of Unrest

In many religions, Sunday us considered a day of rest but is rarely observed these days.   Stores are open and technology keeps us “wired.”  Why not cut your technology use by half today and read an actual book or have an actual conversation with someone you would usually text or email?  Connection, through old fashioned means, can do wonders for the soul and you just might make someone’s day.

Enjoy, live & love,
Michelle

Day of Unrest

In many religions, Sunday us considered a day of rest but is rarely observed these days.   Stores are open and technology keeps us “wired.”  Why not cut your technology use by half today and read an actual book or have an actual conversation with someone you would usually text or email?  Connection, through old fashioned means, can do wonders for the soul and you just might make someone’s day.

Enjoy, live & love,
Michelle

What The Heck Is Mindfulness Anyway?

Seriously, what is mindfulness?  The term is so overused these days that I think the true meaning gets lost.  In truth, the meaning of mindfulness is different for everyone.  Yes, the universal meaning is living and being present in the moment, not worrying about the future or re-living the past.  But, what does that mean?

To me, it is simply stopping what you are doing and looking around.  Ask yourself, “how do I know I’m here?”  My therapist asked me this question when I first started working with her and I tried so hard to come up with a profound answer but the answer is easy.

Right now, I know I’m here because I can feel my feet on the carpeted floor, the chair suppo2012-06-14 20.25.34rting my butt, my fingers on the keyboard and the light coming in through the sliding glass door.  It’s really as simple as that!  Look around and notice what you see.  The best thing about asking this question is that I’ve never ever answered it with a heavy heart, worry or anything but peace.  I’ve always enjoyed my surroundings and every worry or fear just faded into nothing.  Try it, I think you’ll like it.

What’s your definition of mindfulness?  Head to the comments and let us know!

P.S.  The above photo was taken by one of my favorite people – she knows who she is!

Death Reflection

When we reflect on our life as we’re about to leave this world, will we think of the weight we needed to lose or the years we wasted wishing for the perfect weight or body with fondness or will we think of the way we loved and were loved and how we made a positive difference in the lives of others?

When the question is posed this way, it seems a little silly to invest so much energy worrying about the last 5, 10, 15, 50 or 100 pounds we may need to lose when there are so many more important things in life on which to focus.  When it comes down to it, does the weight really warrant as much time and energy as we put into it or does living a better life trump that?

“Don’t Believe the Rumor” – Part 1

I have evolved to a place in my treatment where I am exploring Buddhist principles and I have a wonderful therapist who is helping me in this quest.  Seriously, she is amazing.  She shared a passage from the Buddha that encourages free thinking and, in a society that favors conformity, I found it to be quite liberating.  The passage is on the long side so I will share a portion of it each Sunday until it is finished.  My intention is to bring about awareness of our core beliefs, how we came to believe them and examine if they still ring true for us.  Here we go….

“Do not believe a thing simply because it has been said.”

This resonates with me because I have heard from so many that “I am not my weight” and “weight doesn’t define you.” Just because this has been said to me doesn’t mean I believed it then or now.  I realized I have to find my own way to achieve stronger self-esteem and that requires more than words from another.